AFTERMATHS OF INFIDELITY AS EXPRESSED BY LITERATE WORKING CLASS WOMEN IN LAGOS STATE, NIGERIA

Aminat Adeola  Odebode; Joke Felicia  James; Kabir Adewale  Adegunju; J.  Julia

doi:10.24200/jonus.vol6iss2pp41-57

Aminat Adeola Odebode Faculty of Education, University of Ilorin, Nigeria. https://orcid.org/0000-0002-3797-2757
Joke Felicia James Faculty of Education, University of Ilorin, Nigeria. https://orcid.org/0000-0001-9619-5436
Kabir Adewale Adegunju Faculty of Education, University of Ilorin, Nigeria. https://orcid.org/0000-0002-9356-7705
J. Julia Universitas Pendidikan Indonesia, Kota Bandung, Jawa Barat 40154, Indonesia. https://orcid.org/0000-0002-0249-0264

DOI: https://doi.org/10.24200/jonus.vol6iss2pp41-57

Abstract

Background and Purpose: Globally, many married adults engage in infidelity. However, the repercussions of the act appear not palatable for couples, their children and the society at large. This study therefore, investigated the aftermaths of infidelity as expressed by literate working class women in Lagos State. The study also examined whether age and type of marriage would affect the respondents’ views.

Methodology: The descriptive design was adopted for this study. A total of 300 literate working class women were drawn from the target population using purposive and simple random sampling techniques. A researcher-developed questionnaire tagged Aftermaths of Infidelity (AIQ) was used to collect data. The instrument was validated by five experts in Nigeria and Nusantara while its reliability was established through test re-test reliability method and a coefficient of 0.74 was gotten. The data collected were analyzed using t-test and Analysis of Variance (ANOVA) at 0.05 level.

Findings: Results showed that divorce, unhappiness, contact of sexually transmitted diseases, emotional disability, hatred in the family, unwanted pregnancy, distrust and suspicion in the family, psychological trauma in children, and giving birth to illegitimate children are some of the aftermaths of infidelity as expressed by the literate working class women. Similarly, age and marriage type did not influence the expression of literate working class women in Lagos State on infidelity.

Contributions: Infidelity has devastating aftermaths. Counsellors should enlighten couples on the aftermaths of infidelity; they should enlighten them on the negative effects which infidelity has on the home, children and the society in general.

Keywords: Aftermath, infidelity, literate working class women, Lagos State, Nigeria.

Cite as: Odebode, A. A., James, J. F., Adegunju, K. A., & Julia, J. (2021). Aftermaths of infidelity as expressed by literate working class women in Lagos State, Nigeria. Journal of Nusantara Studies, 6(2), 41-57. http://dx.doi.org/10.24200/jonus.vol6iss2pp41-57

Author Biographies

Aminat Adeola Odebode, Faculty of Education, University of Ilorin, Nigeria.

Odebode, Aminat Adeola is a lecturer in the Department of Counsellor Education, University of Ilorin, Nigeria. She is a member of Counselling Association of Nigeria and a member of Association of Professional Counsellors in Nigeria. She is also a Licensed Professional Counsellor of Nigeria (LPCN) and Certified Counsellor of Nigeria (CCN). She specializes in family and mental health counselling.

Joke Felicia James, Faculty of Education, University of Ilorin, Nigeria.

Joke James is currently a lecturer at the Department of Health Promotion and Environmental Health Education, Faculty of Education University of Ilorin, Ilorin, Nigeria. She is a professional teacher, counselor and health educator, who specializes in family life, parenting and sexuality Education.

Kabir Adewale Adegunju , Faculty of Education, University of Ilorin, Nigeria.

Adegunju Kabir Adewale is a lecturer in the Department of Counsellor Education, University of Ilorin, Nigeria, where he obtained his Bachelor of Education and Masters degrees. Kabir is a member of Counselling Association of Nigeria and a member of Association of Professional Counsellors of Nigeria. He is a licensed professional counsellor and certified Counsellor in Nigeria. He specializes in marital counselling.

J. Julia, Universitas Pendidikan Indonesia, Kota Bandung, Jawa Barat 40154, Indonesia.

Julia is an assistant professor at the Indonesian University of Education, Bandung, Indonesia. He teaches music education and qualitative research methods in elementary teacher education programs. Since 2019 he has been assigned as the head of the elementary teacher education program, Sumedang campus. He has opened opportunities to collaborate in research and publications with researchers around the world.

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